EP. 36 | The Cure for People Pleasing? One Simple Word Swap

Apr 10

Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things—yet still feel off? Tired? Resentful? Like you're living life for everyone but you?

Yeah… me too.

In this powerful episode, I pull back the curtain on one sneaky little word that’s silently controlling so many of our choices—and not in a good way. That word? Should.

It seems harmless. Responsible even.
"I should call her back."
"I should go to that dinner."
"I should be happier by now."
But when you really pay attention, you’ll notice how heavy that word feels in your body. How tight your chest gets. How small your world becomes.

Because here’s the truth: “Should” is just fear in disguise.
Fear of disappointing others. Fear of judgment. Fear of not being enough. And when we live from that place, we disconnect from what we actually want. We abandon ourselves to make others comfortable.

In this episode, I walk you through:

The emotional cost of people pleasing (even when it seems “nice” on the surface)
Why “should” keeps you stuck in guilt, fear, and burnout
The neuroscience behind why your nervous system knows when you're betraying yourself
A simple 3-step strategy to flip the script on obligation-based decisions
How to reconnect with your values and create boundaries without shame

Plus, I’ll share one of my go-to coaching tools to help you finally break free from the invisible pressure of always doing what’s expected—and start living in alignment with your truth.

You don’t need to earn your worth through endless “shoulds.” You already are enough. So let’s stop proving and start choosing.

Ready to reclaim your voice and your choices? Let’s do a “should detox” together.
Tune in now—and if this episode hits home, share it with a friend who needs the same reminder.

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