EP. 28 | Breaking the Fight Cycle: A Therapist's Guide to Emotional Intimacy With Your Partner
Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same argument on repeat—frustrated that your partner, friend, or loved one just doesn’t get it? Or maybe you’ve felt unheard, unseen, or like your emotions are being dismissed?
You’re not alone. Most of us were never taught how to truly communicate in a way that builds connection instead of conflict.
In this episode, I sit down with family therapist and parenting expert Kerry Stutzman, who shares an eye-opening approach to navigating tough conversations—so you can feel heard, understood, and closer to the people who matter most.
Kerry reveals how our default emotional responses - whether it's anger, sadness, anxiety, or guilt - shape our relationship conflicts and shares a game-changing technique called "flow of feelings" that can transform heated arguments into meaningful connections.
In this episode, you'll discover:
Why we get stuck in repetitive argument patterns with our partners
How childhood experiences shape our emotional responses in relationships
A step-by-step communication tool to express difficult feelings without triggering defensiveness
The art of truly listening to your partner (and why it's harder than you think)
How to introduce therapeutic tools to a reluctant partner
Through a candid role-play demonstration with Kerry, she shows exactly how to put this technique into practice, making it accessible for any couple looking to deepen their connection and break free from destructive communication patterns.
Whether you're struggling with relationship conflicts or simply want to build stronger emotional intimacy with your partner, this episode offers practical tools for more authentic and connecting conversations.
Featured Guest: Kerry Stutzman, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Website: www.kerrystutzman.com
Resources: Flow of Feelings tool available at https://kerrystutzman.com/flow-of-feelings/
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